Though the oldest sex toys were possibly carved from stone, technology and necessity helped make sex toys more durable and pleasurable. The original mechanical vibrator was created to help care for a variety of health issues, like pain, deafness, and impotence – not for sexual excitation as once was thought. Today, sex toys are made for a variety of pleasures, from private play to partnered play. They’re also great for any level of interest, from the tame to the wild.

Not only are sex toys created for pleasure, but they can also be useful for different health reasons. Masturbation and orgasms help to release all these wonderful hormones, like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, which all help create feelings of love and affection. The release can also relieve stress, boost the immune system, and help promote more restful sleep. So, even though they are ultimately used for fun, there are plenty of benefits to using them.

Now, how will you know what the right toy is for you? This would be the time to interview your own thoughts and pleasures. Is this for you, for your partner, for both together? Does it need to vibrate or buzz or spin or have a special feature? Do you or your partner need some accommodations on body size or ability or allergy? Will it be used for a specific act or experience? Do you or your partner prefer a type of texture? Is it something that needs to pair with a vibrator, like a harness or lubrication? There’s so many questions to ask before making a final decision.

However, it doesn’t have to be final. Sometimes, it’s trial and error. You might find something you love right away, or you might find something you enjoy now and still crave more. It’s important to choose something based on your wants, and to be open to the fun and experience that these sex toys can bring you.